Didysis abipusio masturbavimosi vadovas (1 dalis) Kas yra abipusė masturbacija ir kaip abipusė masturbacija veikia santykiuose?

Taip, masturbacija iš esmės yra savęs mylėjimas. Bet kas sakė, kad negalima dalytis meile ir žaisti solo, kartu?

What is mutual masturbation?

Mutual masturbation actually has two definitions: masturbating yourselves together or having hand sex with one another. Here, we’re talking about masturbating yourselves together.

This kind of partnered solo play can happen in the same room, via video, or even on the phone if you’re shy or just enjoy some hot aural sex.

How mutual masturbation works in relationships

It’s pretty much the most intimate thing you can do with a partner.

You’re letting them watch and listen as you do something that most people only do behind closed doors.

It can make you feel an exciting — and kind of terrifying — mix of vulnerable and powerful at the same time.

As for them, being privy to the peep show and watching you pleasure yourself can kick up the naughty factor by a bazillion.

Other reasons it’s awesome:

• Pleasure’s a sure thing, because each of you gets to do what you already know feels good for you.
• You get to release your inner voyeurs and exhibitionists at the same time. (You know they’re in there!)
• It’s the best sex ed you can get, because your lover gets to learn how to give you pleasure from the most qualified instructor: you. And vice versa.
• If you want to introduce sex toys into the bedroom, this is hands-down the best way to start the convo.
• It’s totally versatile and can be used to fulfill other fantasies, like role-playing, threesomes, or group sex.

Myths and misconceptions about mutual masturbation

If you have any preconceived ideas about mutual masturbation that have been stopping you from giving it a whirl, we’re gonna set the record straight.

Here are a few common misconceptions about mutual masturbation and why they’re BS.

Myth: Mutual masturbation is so high school, and people only do it when they’re not ready to go all the way

You might think penetrative sex is the end game when it comes to sex, but if that’s all you strive for, you’re seriously missing out.

Pleasure should be the focus of sex, and penetration is *not* the only way to get or give pleasure. Mutual masturbation is just one of many ways to get each other off.

It gets bonus points for versatility because anyone can enjoy it, including those who prefer not to have or can’t have penetrative sex.

Myth: Mutual masturbation is for same-sex couples

Nope! Mutual masturbation’s for everyone!

Basically, if you want to try it, have at it, no matter who you are.

Myth: Masturbation is bad and causes blindness, hairy palms, addiction, or erectile dysfunction

We call BS on all of these. For starters, masturbation has actually been associated with many health benefits, like improved sleep, reduced stress, and better body confidence.

Furthermore, there’s no evidence linking masturbation with any of these ill effects. But let’s break ‘em down for fun:

• Blindness isn’t caused by masturbation unless you’re masturbating with a sharp object, like, say, a hairbrush, and the lube causes you to slip and accidentally poke your eyes.
• Hairy palms just aren’t possible unless you’ve inherited a rare gene, according to the Genetic and Rare Diseases Information Center. That gene causes a condition called circumscribed hairy dysembryoplasia of palms.
• Masturbation addiction isn’t a clinical diagnosis and masturbation isn’t recognized as addictive. While some people may do it compulsively and find it problematic, there are actually many health benefits associated with rubbing one out.
• Erectile dysfunction has several possible physical and psychological causes — masturbation not included. Excess smoking and alcohol use, cardiovascular disease, and stress are common culprits.

Potential risks to be aware of

Masturbation is pretty much the safest sex you can have, but when doing it with a partner — virtually or IRL — there are some risks to consider.

First, be aware of bodily fluids. Touching yourselves isn’t risky, but any time there’s contact with semen or vaginal fluids, there’s a risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

If either of you decides to reach over for a feel — with consent! — wash and dry your hands first, or use barrier protection.

Trust is a must, especially in this day and age of virtual everything, where just a click lets a person sneak a screenshot or record a video and share it with others.

How to bring it up

Your situation can give you an easy way into the convo.

For instance, if you’re in a long-distance relationship or separately isolating from a virus, it can be as simple as saying something like:

• “I really miss touching you, but I think I’ve figured out the next best thing.”
• “I know how we can have sex and still stay 6 feet apart.”

How to set the mood

Set the scene, whether the rub-a-thon’s happening IRL or virtually, by choosing a safe and comfortable space so you can both fully relax.

A bed, the couch, or a pillow fort on the floor — whatever works for you.

Dim the lights, light some candles, and put on some music. If suds float your boat, then feel free to take your sesh to the tub.

Keep toys, lube, and any other props within reach.